How I was a Right-Fighter And WW Linkup!
I’m continuing to unpack why I didn’t confess my faults and sins to my husband in the early days of my marriage, focusing today on . . . Distortion Two – “If I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize!”...
View ArticleCan ‘Not Apologizing’ Motivate My Mate? and WW Linkup!
Today I’m continuing my series on why I didn’t apologize to my mate, by tackling the third justification I mentioned two weeks ago. {To see that post click here.} “I believed that because his sins...
View ArticleWill you soothe my mood? SJT Video
Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means...
View ArticleWhy Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!
I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded...
View ArticleHow to Apologize Effectively and WW Linkup!
I grew up in a home where apologies were rarely extended or witnessed. We were a loving bunch, but somehow this important practice of acknowledging our sins and apologizing to each other was never...
View ArticleWhen and When NOT To Apologize – Plus WW Linkup!
Creating a confessional culture in your marriage should be developed with both discernment and timing in mind. Like most changes you want to make in life or marriage, you must go slowly and...
View Article3 Ways to Handle a Failed Confession And WW Linkup!
Sometimes you do everything to prepare your heart and mind for a confessional moment with your spouse, and yet it fails! How can that happen? Typically this happens in the heat of the moment and for...
View ArticleWhen Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!
It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when...
View Article‘Everybody Loves Vulnerability’ And WW Linkup!
I am still unpacking what I feel are the important aspects of creating a confessional culture today, which leads me to share about a vulnerable and unflattering moment of mine in my own marriage....
View Article10 of My Favorite Posts
I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find...
View Article8 Creative and Romantic Gift Ideas for Your Mate
With springtime flower gardens beginning to bloom, I’m reminded that every married person is something of a gardener. You may have a garden (marriage) that’s overrun by weeds, but nevertheless, you are...
View ArticleHow to Clean Up Nitpicking Imperfections in Your Spouse
Today, I’m excited to be joined by my next guest blogger in the “Spring Clean Your Marriage” series, Carmen Brown. Her story will move you in powerful ways to see the destructiveness of nitpicking your...
View Article4 Ways to Avoid Correcting Choices Your Mate Makes
If you’ve read my blog for any length of time, you know that I tend to want to correct, even manipulate, my spouse’s choices. There’s just something within me that loves to bite on the bait of this...
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